How to Navigate The Messy Middle of Change with Jo Clark
There’s an uncomfortable space between who you were and who you're becoming. Many of us know it well. In this honest solo episode, I open up and expand on that "messy middle". The in-between place where old roles are shifting, new paths aren't clear yet, and everything can feel uncertain. If you're navigating an empty nest, career transition, health challenges, or caring for aging parents while wondering where you fit in, this conversation has you in my mind. Because this phase isn't a sign you're stuck, it's where real transformation happens.
Key Takeaways
The Messy Middle is Where Magic Happens
That uncomfortable phase between letting go of what was and not knowing what's next isn't failure. It's the cocoon phase where transformation happens. Yes, society tells us we should have it all together, but feeling uncertain while navigating major life transitions simply means you're growing, not failing.
Start Small and Build Momentum
Instead of trying to overhaul your entire life overnight (even though you want to), focus on one small, meaningful change at a time. A five-minute morning ritual, a short daily walk, or taking deep breaths before responding to stress builds the momentum, confidence, and clarity you're seeking.
Anchor Yourself in Right Now
When everything feels uncertain, grounding yourself in the present moment becomes your lifeline. Simple practices like breathwork, journaling, or sitting outside with your cup of tea remind you that right here, right now, you are okay. Even when the future feels murky.
Name It and Claim Your Support
Bring clarity by naming exactly what's ending and what might be beginning. Say it out loud or write it down: "I'm transitioning from this role into something new." Choose your support circle wisely. Not everyone will be helpful, and you don't need to take advice from people who haven't walked a similar path.
Remember: This Too Shall Pass
The messy middle isn't forever, even when it feels like it might be. This is a season of your life, and if you approach it intentionally, it becomes an opportunity to create something beautiful moving forward. You don't need it all figured out, just keep showing up for yourself, one small act at a time.
Your Transformation is Underway
You're not breaking, you're unbecoming who you once were and becoming someone entirely new. Midlife isn't the end; it's the beginning of something extraordinary. Change is hard and messy, but it's also where the magic happens. So take that deep breath and ask yourself: Where am I in my own messy middle, and what's one small supportive step I can take today?
Ready to explore what's possible on the other side of these transitions?
Connect with me:
RE-IMAGINE: A personalised 1:1 six-week mentoring programme https://www.joclarkcoaching.com/work-with-me
You’re invited to a transformative 4-hour event I’m co-hosting with women’s health GP Dr Sian Hebron on 18 July 2025 at the beautiful Noosa Springs Golf and Spa Resort. https://www.joclarkcoaching.com/shifting-tides
Share your journey with me by sending me a message on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/joclarkcoaching/
Email me your success story at jo@joclarkcoaching.com.
What you do today shapes your tomorrow. Your health matters because YOU matter.
Here’s to redefining midlife and making our next half of life even better than the first.
